The nervous system only learns new stories when you stop playing the old ones. ―Chandresh Bhardwaj I met a guy online recently. We hit it off on day one—actually, hour one. Lol. We were so different but had so much in common. Everything felt easy, na...
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That diagnosis isn’t your destiny. It is a map.
When you receive a diagnosis, it often comes with traits and behaviors. We use those traits as clues that lead us back to the root: the experiences and beliefs that shaped how you see yourself and the world. Your diagnosis isn’t a label, it’s a map that opens the doorway to healing. From there, we rewrite the story, tend to what’s been hurting, and create new ways of being that honor your sensitivity, your nervous system, and your lived experience. This isn’t about fixing you; it’s about returning to your original blueprint.
I See You. I Understand. I'm Here to Help.
Blending spiritual wisdom with professional training and personal understanding
Spiritual Guidance
Faith-Based Healing & Inner Work
Years of Coaching
Helping Others Navigate Their Journey
Lived Experience
10/10 ACE Score and BPD Diagnosis
Behavioral Health Science Student
1.5 Years of Academic Training
A Different Perspective
I am not here to replace or dismiss any formal diagnosis. If you’ve been diagnosed with BPD or any other mental health condition, your experience is real, valid, and essential. What I am here to offer is a different perspective on your traits. Not as limitations or life sentences, but as parts of you that carry strength, wisdom, and potential for growth.
This space is about moving from feeling broken to feeling brilliantly complex. From victimhood to empowerment. From self-rejection to self-reclamation.
Choose Your Path to Healing
Different options for different needs - all rooted in proven recovery methods
1:1 Coaching Sessions
Starting at $150/session
Personalized support for your unique healing journey. Work directly with Raphaella to address your specific challenges with BPD, narcissistic abuse recovery, or emotional regulation.
- 60-minute private sessions
- Customized healing strategies
- Email support between sessions
- Progress tracking & accountability
Digital Resources
From $8.10
Self-paced Courses, Guided Meditations, Journal prompts, Print Journals, Spiritual Tools for emotional regulation, and help on your daily journey.
- Instant downloads
- Printable format
- Audio + written guides
- Regular updates
BPD Community
Free to join
Join a supportive community of individuals on their BPD healing journey. Share experiences, gain insights, and grow together in a safe, understanding space.
- Monthly group online meeting
- Safe space to share
- Daily encouragement
- Occasional events
You're Not Alone in This Journey
I grew up under the emotional control of a narcissistic mother and grandmother. Love came with conditions, and safety never felt guaranteed. I learned early that being good didn't mean being safe, and that my feelings didn't matter unless they served someone else.
My ACE Score: 10/10
Every kind of trauma they measure, I lived through. My nervous system was built in survival mode, always bracing for what might come next.
When I was finally diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, I cried—not from shock, but because I finally had words for everything I had lived through. BPD wasn't the problem. It was the result of what happened to me.
But it's not the end of me. BPD is curable, and you and I can write a different story—one where we survive, heal, and thrive.
Today, I use my story and professional training to help others navigate their own healing journeys. Because if I can heal by building awareness, there's hope for anyone willing to do the work.
Ready to Begin Your Healing Journey?
Take the first step today. Book a free 20-minute discovery call to see if we're the right fit.
What I Offer (Simple + Soulful)
Support for those living with BPD, Narcissistic Survivors, and Emotional Disregulation
I’m a life coach who specializes in supporting individuals living with or navigating traits of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD), Narcissistic Survivors, and Emotional Disregulation. That is nothing wrong with you, and to have someone who not only has lived and survived, but also understands what you are going through.
Practical Tools
My work does not replace therapy. It provides practical tools, emotional support, and soul-centered guidance to help you regulate emotions, deepen self-trust, and thrive in relationships. Includes somatic trauma-informed sessions.
My approach + Spirituality
My approach blends mindset, body-based tools, creativity, and spirituality to help you build a life that feels safe, soft, and powerfully yours.
Grounded in lived experience
Everything I offer is grounded in lived experience and designed to meet you where you are—no shame, no rushing, no fixing—just truth and transformation.
Blog Posts
Most of us did not grow up in an environment where emotional intelligence was a factor or even a consideration. And if you identify as a BIPOC, this concept might have been something you couldn’t even fathom. This is why it is so important to me that...
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Having the courage to look at ourselves from an honest place allows us to become observers of our pain rather than victims of it. We go from, “Why is this happening to me?” to “Why is this happening “for” me?”This is not ignoring or denying what...
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If you wait for joy to come,How long do you think that would take?Until your circumstances change?Until the world changes?Joy cometh when you decide to create it, despite your circumstances.It doesn’t mean that you have to deny what you feel,Or turn ...
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We all come from the light, and as we enter this dimension, we enter into complete darkness. When I talk about the Light, I am referring to Source, or what most people would refer to as God, Creator, Universe, Mother, or the Divine.The goal of our ex...
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Back in 2020, I left a very abusive relationship that left me with a mild level of PTSD. Before I could see a therapist, my mentor suggested that I write three letters: one to God, one to the abuser, and one to myself (not to be sent).He told me to b...
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Our emotions are a map designed to experience humanity and guide us back to the Source. When we don’t acknowledge or avoid our emotions, it impacts not only our lives but also the lives of those around us.It is our responsibility to find our way back...
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ANEW Life School
Programs and Tools to Bring Your Ideas to Life
Rapha Said It Here, The Podcast.
🎙️ Rapha Said It Here is a podcast about all things human. We explore emotional health, spirituality, healing tools, and real-life ideas for living more fully. You'll hear education, reflections, and interviews that meet you where you are.
✨ Listen today and come home to yourself—one episode at a time.
About Me
I’m Raphaella Silva, and I’m deeply passionate about the power of emotional intelligence in navigating life’s challenges and fostering personal growth. Shaped by my own life experiences, I’ve learned that empathy, intuition, and self-awareness can transform lives. I believe that understanding what’s in the space first allows us to acknowledge it and create something meaningful from a space of nothing. Emotional intelligence isn’t just a skill—it’s a pathway to healing, connection, and endless possibilities. I like to emphasize that emotional intelligence is not just about understanding one’s own emotions but also about empathizing with others, effectively managing interpersonal relationships, and navigating challenging situations with grace and resilience. I believe that cultivating emotional intelligence leads to healthier relationships, enhanced communication, and greater overall well-being.
